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Have you ever gone to bed tired, but your mind suddenly becomes busy? You remember something you said to someone three days ago. “Did I say the wrong thing?” “What if they misunderstood me?” Then another thought comes. “What if something goes wrong at work tomorrow?” And before you know it, you have spent an […]

Almost everyone feels anxious sometimes. You may feel nervous before an exam, an important meeting, a medical test, or when something is uncertain about your future. A little anxiety can even help us prepare. But sometimes the worry does not switch off. You may wake up already feeling tense. Your mind keeps thinking about what

There are days when we all feel low. Maybe something has gone wrong at work. You had an argument with someone close to you. You did not get the result you expected. Sometimes life simply feels heavy for a while. Usually, with some time, rest, support, or a change in circumstances, we start feeling like

Marriage does not usually become difficult because two people suddenly stop loving each other. Sometimes it happens slowly. One person comes home tired from work. The other has spent the whole day managing the house or looking after children. There are bills to think about, responsibilities toward parents, pressure from work, and perhaps very little

Over the past few years, I have received messages from Nepalis living in different parts of the world who are struggling with anxiety, low mood, poor sleep, stress, relationship difficulties, and other mental health concerns. Some find me through social media. Others come through my website or through friends and family. Often, the first message

“डाक्टर, बाँच्न मन नै लाग्दैन।“ “म परिवारको लागि बोझ भएँ जस्तो लाग्छ।“ “सबै समस्या समाप्त भए राम्रो हुन्थ्यो भन्ने सोच आउँछ।“ यस्ता कुरा धेरै मानिसहरूले खुलेर भन्न सक्नुहुन्न। कतिपयले आफ्नो पीडा मनमै दबाएर राख्छन्। बाहिरबाट सामान्यदेखिए पनि भित्रभित्रै उनीहरू गहिरो मानसिक संघर्षमा हुन सक्छन्। धेरै मानिसले आत्महत्या गर्ने निर्णय अचानक लिन्छन् भन्ने सोच हुन्छ। तर

“डाक्टर, अचानक मेरो मुटु धेरै छिटो धड्किन थाल्यो। सास फेर्नै गाह्रो भयो। मलाई हार्ट अट्याक भयो जस्तोलाग्यो।“ “म मर्छु जस्तो भयो।“ “Emergency मा गएर ECG र अन्य सबै परीक्षण गराएँ, तर सबै रिपोर्ट सामान्य आए। त्यसपछि पनि फेरियस्तै हुन्छ कि भन्ने डरले घरबाहिर निस्कन पनि डर लाग्न थाल्यो।“ यस्ता अनुभव लिएर धेरै बिरामी मेरो क्लिनिकमा

“डाक्टर, मलाई कुनै काम गर्न मन लाग्दैन। बिहान उठ्न पनि गाह्रो हुन्छ। सबैले ‘धेरै नसोच‘ मात्र भन्छन्, तर मआफैँलाई किन यस्तो भइरहेको छ भन्ने बुझ्न सकिरहेको छैन।“ मेरो क्लिनिकमा आउने धेरै बिरामीहरूले यस्तै शब्दबाट आफ्नो कुरा सुरु गर्नुहुन्छ। सुरुमा उनीहरूलाई लाग्छ—”सायद म कमजोर भएको हुँ“, “मलाई इच्छाशक्ति छैन“, वा “यो त केही दिनमै ठीक हुन्छ।“

“डाक्टर, मेरो मन सधैं केही नराम्रो हुन्छ कि भन्ने डर लागिरहन्छ।“ “सानो कुरा पनि धेरै सोचिरहन्छु।“ “राति सुत्न खोज्दा दिमाग बन्द नै हुँदैन।“ यस्ता कुरा म आफ्नो क्लिनिकमा लगभग हरेक दिन सुन्छु। धेरैजसो बिरामी सुरुमा आफ्नो समस्यालाई “धेरै सोच्नेबानी” वा “स्वभाव नै यस्तै हो” भनेर सामान्य ठान्नुहुन्छ। कतिपयले वर्षौंसम्म कसैलाई पनि आफ्नो समस्या भन्नसक्नुहुन्न। तर

“डाक्टर, मलाई थाहा छ मेरो सोच अनौठो छ, तर रोक्नै सक्दिनँ।“ “हात सफा छ भन्ने थाहा हुँदाहुँदै पनि पटक–पटक साबुनले धुन मन लाग्छ।“ “ढोका बन्द गरें कि गरिनँ भनेर बारम्बार गएर जाँच गर्छु।“ “दिमागमा नराम्रा विचार आउँछन्, तर म त्यस्तो गर्न चाहन्नँ।“ यस्ता गुनासा लिएर धेरै बिरामी मेरो क्लिनिकमा आउनुहुन्छ। धेरैजसोलाई सुरुमा आफूलाई के भएको